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The LGBTQ Community Faces Many Financial Challenges — Here’s How to Overcome Them

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Getting your financial house in order is a tough chore, regardless of your circumstances. But when you’re in the LGBTQ community, it can be even harder. Systemic discrimination, emotional and familial struggles, and sometimes the inability to start a family biologically, can bring additional financial challenges.

“People often ask us what makes queer money different,” said David Auten, who with his husband John Schneider, runs the Debt Free Guys blog and Queer Money podcast. They believe 80% of money is the same for everyone — the basic transactional aspects like spending, saving and investing.

“There’s 20% that is specific to who we are, who we love, where we live and the family structure that we have, and in many cases, the legacy emotional aspects that we bring into life,” Auten said. Growing up being ostracized or bullied creates emotional wounds that can last for a lifetime, prompting people to overspend in attempt to make showy displays of wealth to prove self-worth, he said. “In our opinion, that has a much bigger role in how we interact with money than the other 80%.”

It takes some extra effort to understand what these challenges are and how to overcome them, but it can be done. If you’re in the LGBTQ community and you need to improve your financial situation, here’s what you need to know.

Discrimination is a major barrier to financial success for the LGBTQ community

The LGBTQ community is up against numerous disadvantages that present financial challenges, said Mariam Adams, a Merrill Lynch Wealth Management advisor in New York City whose practice focuses on the LGBTQ community.

These struggles often start in adolescence, Adams said, since some LGBTQ youth have unsupportive families and are much more likely to end up homeless. Adams’ parents were from Afghanistan and did not have LGBTQ in their vocabulary. She grew up as a closeted lesbian. Not knowing how her family would react to her coming out, she made sure she was financially secure first in case she was cut off. “I don’t think my friends were going through that struggle at the time,” she said.

One in four LGBTQ people have experienced employment discrimination in the last five years, and it’s worse for the transgender community, according to Out & Equal. Transitioning in and of itself can be expensive, but fears of being fired from a job or denied housing simply for being LGBTQ — which is still legal in dozens of states — add more pressure.

Nearly 53% of the LGBTQ community report discrimination negatively affecting their work environment, and this discrimination can be seen in reports of lower income for LGBTQ people than the general population, Adams said. Plus, the gender gap persists; LGBTQ women earn even less than LGBTQ men. And if someone wants to live in a more LGBTQ-friendly city like New York or San Francisco, she said, that adds extra costs, making it even harder to get by.

LGBTQ people also tend to spend more than non-LGBTQ people, Adams said, and they’re less knowledgeable about finances and don’t take as much advantage of financial products or advisors. She said working with a financial professional can make people feel vulnerable and exposed, and not everyone in the LGBTQ community trusts that someone at a financial institution will know how to — or be willing to — help them.

All of these factors take a toll — a recent survey commissioned by the podcast Team Nancy and conducted by polling firm Morning Consult found that 52% of self-identified queer people feel anxiety around their finances, and 25% say their sexuality or gender has impacted their finances. A separate survey by MassMutual found that nearly half of LGBTQ workers between the ages of 25 and 65 did not feel financially secure, compared to 37% of non-LGBTQ people.

Feeling discouraged? Take a deep breath: here’s what you can do about it.

7 ways the LGBTQ community can overcome financial challenges

Get to the root cause of spending

You might think the first way to get your financial house in order is to make a spreadsheet and a budget, but until you address your subconscious beliefs and emotions around money, it’s hard to make any real progress, Schneider said.

So many people in the community have been ostracized, bullied or picked on when growing up, he added, which results in many limiting beliefs about “who we are, what we’re worth and whether or not we’re validated by society.”

After Schneider and Auten paid off $51,000 in credit card debt, they had an epiphany about their spending. “We started to realize one of the reasons why we got into so much debt is we were making up for feelings of inferiority, making up for being bullied and picked on when we were kids, making up for the fact that our families and our churches, our classmates and everyone in our lives basically were reminding us over and over again that because we were gay, we just weren’t good enough,” Auten said. “One of the easiest ways to prove that you’re a good person in this country is to show you have wealth and financial means.”

The couple had 13 years of combined experience in financial services when they finally confessed to each other that they were each struggling financially. “In theory, we knew better, but we were sabotaging ourselves financially, mostly because the 20% that most affected us was that limiting belief that we weren’t really good enough,” Schneider said. So take the time to examine any limiting beliefs or lingering emotions that might be holding you back or causing you to overspend. Meet with a mental health or financial professional if you need help digging deep.

Know your health access barriers — and insurance rights

The Affordable Care Act and recent supreme court rulings have increased access to health insurance and healthcare for many in the LGBTQ community. Regardless, discrimination, and past negative experiences with healthcare professionals have caused some LGBTQ individuals to delay access to needed medical care. To help you find a health care provider you feel comfortable with, there’s a provider directory from Health Profesionals Advancing LGBTQ Equality (formally the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association) that lists practitioners considered to be LGBTQ-friendly.

For transgender individuals looking to transition, hormone replacement therapy can also be difficult to obtain. However, if you have health insurance, be aware that under federal law, it’s now illegal for health insurance to exclude transition-related care. While this doesn’t mean an employer has to fully cover every procedure, you may be able to get exceptions if you show that it’s medically necessary. If you face denial or discrimination from a health insurer or medical practitioner, speak up — the National Center for Transgender Equality suggests a variety of options for recourse if you can’t get quality care. Also, if you aren’t able to afford health insurance, there are clinics around the country, including some Planned Parenthood locations, that offer affordable hormone replacement therapy.

Financially plan to start a family

If you want to have kids and aren’t able to biologically, prepare in advance due to the massive cost, Adams said. If you don’t, it can result in significant debt. She helps her LGBTQ clients save and invest for family planning, and she said it’s crucial to start setting aside and investing money as soon as possible so it can grow through compound interest.

She recommended setting up a separate investment plan specifically for this purpose. Also, it’s ideal to meet with a financial advisor or planner who can help you assess the best way to invest since it will vary depending on how much time you have and how much money you ultimately need.

Adams has found that public adoption through foster care can cost from nothing up to nearly $3,000, but people who go through a private adoption agency can spend anywhere from $40,000 to $60,000.

For lesbian couples in which one wants to carry a baby, intrauterine insemination (IUI) can cost about $3,000 per try, Adams said; that’s what she and her wife had to pay since their insurance didn’t cover it. If that doesn’t work, or if one partner wants to carry the other’s egg, you can try in vitro fertilization, but this is much more expensive. Adams and her wife used this method for their second pregnancy, and it cost them around $30,000 including all of the medications and appointments. In both cases, couples often have to try more than once before they have success. For male couples who want to use a surrogate to have a biological child, Adams typically advises a budget of $125,000 for the entire process, and she’s never seen it cost less than $100,000 total.

An increasing number of companies now offer infertility benefits in their health insurance, Adams noted. However, if the same-sex couple isn’t actually medically infertile, Adams said, some insurance providers won’t cover these services, so don’t assume you have these benefits. Adams recommended talking to your HR department to determine your benefits and push for better ones if they’re lacking.

Additionally, if you’re in a same-sex relationship and you’re not biologically related to your child, it’s recommended to take action to become a legal parent. While some states presume you are a parent if you and your spouse were married when the child was born, the National Center for Lesbian Rights recommends all same-sex couples with children establish a legal connection between parent and child, especially if the child was adopted, so that both parents have full legal rights and can make decisions for the child. It also makes estate planning easier if you are the legal parent, especially if you don’t have a will (but you should get a will!).

Get on the same page as your partner

If you’re coupled up, it’s vital that you talk to your partner about money. Auten said his audience often shares that they struggle to talk about finances with their partners and sometimes avoid it altogether. He’s not surprised — it took him and Schneider about a year and a half into their relationship to finally get comfortable enough to share where they stood financially.

“If you’re not on the same page as the person you make financial decisions with, you’re never going to be able to get very far down a road of progress,” Auten said. “If you’re a saver and they’re a spender and you put your money into the same account, well, you’ll probably never end up actually saving money.”

Not sure how to broach the subject? “One of the things that we encourage is that individuals start the conversation with their partner in a very non-confrontational way, talking about their hopes and dreams, what they want their future life to look like, or some of the fun things they really want to do together as a couple,” Auten said. Rather than focusing on how to pay off debt, for example, he said instead start by focusing on what the two of you want your life to look like in a year or three years and make a game plan for your debt from there.

If you and your partner aren’t married yet, Adams suggested considering it. While some in the LGBTQ community don’t feel the need to follow the traditional path of marriage, she said, it can be very beneficial from a financial planning perspective. Since marriage equality came into play, same-sex spouses can file taxes jointly, inherit each other’s money without paying estate taxes and receive their spouse’s Social Security, VA and pension benefits. These perks can be helpful for your family’s finances, Adams said.

Attack your debt

It’s hard to save for emergencies and invest in your future if you’re drowning in debt, so it’s key to get it under control. While the snowball and avalanche methods are common tactics to get out of debt, Auten said, he and Schneider don’t believe they’re the most effective.

“Neither the avalanche or snowball focus on eliminating the biggest hurdle to your debt, especially when it comes to credit card debt, and that is eliminating or reducing the interest payments that you’re making,” Auten said. “Both of those methods are designed around either paying off the largest balance or the highest interest first.” However, Auten said when the pair had $51,000 in credit card debt, they realized they were paying $10,000 a year in interest alone. “We just knew that there was no short-term path to progress for us if we continued to pay that massive amount of interest,” he said.

Instead, they created their own method, “the debt lasso method,” which they said entails intelligently refinancing debt so you can pay off more of your principal balance. They encourage people to “lasso” all of their consumer debt into as few locations as possible. Ideally, you could consolidate your debt under one balance transfer credit card with 0% interest, which allows you to expedite your ability to pay off debt, he said.

Utilize free resources

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, there’s plenty of free help out there. Auten and Schneider recommended finding personal finance blogs and podcasts you can relate to — whether its theirs or one of the many others available — to start educating yourself and learning money best practices.

Schneider recommended looking for a Capital One Café in your area (you can search for locations online). You don’t have to have an account with them to get up to three free money coaching sessions. They don’t do hard pressure sales on you, he said, and they guide you through emotions and limiting beliefs around money. If you’re struggling to get on the same page as your partner financially, they can also serve as a helpful intermediary, Schneider said.

If debt is a big issue for you, you could also set up a free consult with a credit counselor to assess your situation. There are also digital financial tools that can help, such as budgeting apps like Mint and savings apps like Qapital.

Find an expert

If you need help beyond that, consider meeting with a certified financial planner, who can help you identify goals, create a budget and devise a big picture plan to get you on track. If you have money that you’re not sure how to best save or invest, you could meet with a wealth advisor like Adams, who invests money for clients based on their goals. There are several different fee structures out there; some planners charge a flat fee or hourly fee. If someone is managing your investments, they typically charge a percent of the assets being managed.

Being an LGBTQ person in America poses many challenges that can create financial stress. But being aware of the most common issues and taking steps to overcome them and achieve financial security can make life a lot easier.

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How to Save on Back-to-School Shopping

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Parents often revel in the calm and quiet that comes when kids head back to school, but they aren’t likely to enjoy the excess spending that also accompanies the back-to-school season. According to the National Retail Federation, parents will set a record in 2019, spending an average of $696.70 per household on children in elementary school through high school.

 

“It was interesting to see the across-the-board increases in spending levels,” said Mark Mathews, vice president for research development and industry analysis with the NRF. “Elevated levels of consumer sentiment, healthy household balance sheets, low inflation and recent wage gains all seem to be contributing to a confident consumer who is willing to spend money on back-to-school supplies.”

If you’re planning a trip to the store before classes start, there are a few ways to curb the spending and save some bucks.

Plan ahead

No parent should set foot out the door for back-to-school shopping without first taking stock of what they already have. Plenty of old supplies from previous years might still be usable, especially arts and crafts items like crayons, pencils and pens, as well as more expensive things like backpacks, lunch boxes and calculators.

Crossing a few items off your list is a good first step when it comes to saving, but learning how to budget is also important. It’s tempting to run down the back-to-school aisle and grab every colorful notebook and snazzy pencil case in sight, but it doesn’t make a lot of financial sense. Create a realistic budget based on the items you actually need, and try your best to stick to it. If possible, do most of your shopping online, since it’s easier to keep a running tally of how much you’re spending as you shop.

Be smart about sales

Although you’re bound to run into many back-to-school sales this time of year, you don’t need to buy 12 notebooks just because they’re cheaper right now. In fact, you shouldn’t assume the sales price is the best price at all, said consumer savings expert Andrea Woroch. Instead, always comparison shop.

“Run a quick Google search online or on your phone to see if another store is selling the same or a similar item for less,” she said. “Most big box stores will price match, so you won’t even have to drive to another store to get the better deal.” For example, Target,Staples and Walmart all have price matching policies.

Clip coupons and shop discount stores

Coupons have definitely made a digital comeback, with countless apps and websites dedicated to listing all your options in one place. “Spending a few minutes looking for coupons can help you get a better discount,” Woroch said. “Use apps like CouponSherpa, for instance. Or, use the Honey browser tool, which automatically searches and applies relevant coupons to your online order.”

Many stores also offer discounts to valued customers who sign up for their rewards program, like Walgreens and CVS, while craft stores like Michaels regularly offer discounts. Don’t knock purchasing basics like paper and writing supplies from the Dollar Tree, either — you might be surprised by what you find, and those types of items are often the same quality wherever you buy them.

Tax advantage of tax-free holidays

On select dates throughout the year, different states offer state sales tax holidays, or days where you can purchase items without having to pay sales tax on them. You can find a full list of the 2019 state sales tax holidays here, but some upcoming ones include:

  • August 18-24: Connecticut, clothing and footwear
  • August 17-18: Massachusetts, specific items costing less than $2,500 per item

Split bulk purchases

You can usually save money by buying certain items — like construction paper, pens, pencils and folders — in bulk, but you can save even more by splitting those bulk items with other families. Not only is this a great way to share savings, Woroch said, but you can earn rewards faster by charging everything on your card and then having the families pay you back.

Redeem your rewards

If you have a cash back credit card, now’s the time to use it. “Most credit cards give you the best redemption value when you opt for statement credit or have the cash rewards deposited into your bank,” Woroch said. “You can set this money aside for back-to-school shopping.”

Alternatively, Woroch suggested checking to see if your particular card allows you to redeem points for gift cards to retailers where you plan to shop.

Use discounted gift cards

Besides redeeming credit card points for retailer gift cards, you can also scour the web for cheap gift cards online. Planning a trip to Target? Scan websites like Raise,Cardpool and CardCash first. These sites buy and sell unused gift cards at a discount, meaning you can save on purchases you were planning to make anyway.

Consider having your kids contribute

Depending on your child’s age, back-to-school shopping might be the perfect time to start having them contribute to their own goods, especially if they earn an allowance or have a job. Talking to your kids about money at a young age — whether about budgeting, saving or spending — will help them develop solid money habits that will pay off in the future.

Parents already seem to be catching on to this idea. “It was surprising to see how much of their own money kids are contributing towards the back-to-school bills,” Mathews said. “Teens and pre-teens will be spending $63 of their own money, which works out to $1.5 billion overall. This is significantly higher than the levels we saw a decade ago.”

Although the news about increased spending on back-to-school supplies may be alarming, these days there are more ways than ever to save. A little ingenuity, resourcefulness and research can go a long way.

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Survey: Most Americans Have Raided Their Retirement Savings

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Successfully saving for retirement requires dedication and self-restraint, but more than half the country admits to robbing their future selves in order to satisfy today’s spending needs, according to a new survey by MagnifyMoney. While the economic pressures bearing down on workers today make their actions understandable, the hard truth is that many Americans are turning an already-difficult task that much harder by tapping into their retirement savings early.

Key Findings

  • Approximately 52% of respondents admit to tapping their retirement savings account early for a purpose other than retiring: 23% have done so to pay off debt, 17% for a down payment on a home, 11% for college tuition, 9% for medical expenses, and 3% for some other reason.
  • About 29% say there are some scenarios where it is a good idea to withdraw money early from a retirement savings account.
  • Around 60% of respondents do not know exactly how much they have saved for retirement. Just 40% know the exact amount, while 45% have a rough idea, and 15% have no clue.
  • Almost 25% are unhappy with their retirement savings. 47% are happy with the amount saved, and about 28% are neither happy nor unhappy.
  • Finally, 27% have never thought about how much money they’ll need in retirement.

Why are Americans tapping their retirement savings early?

The two main reasons respondents cited for withdrawing money from their retirement savings are as American as apple pie: home ownership and personal debt. According to the survey, 23% of those making an early withdrawal did so to help pay down non-medical debt, while 17% needed the money for a down payment on a home.

Although the housing market appears to be cooling off compared to just a few years ago, a down payment on a home still requires a significant chunk of change — experts recommend a down payment equaling 20% of the total mortgage to optimize your mortgage payments.

Personal debt, from credit cards to student loans, remains a fixture of everyday economic reality for millions of Americans. In other words, the stressors that cause workers to raid their retirement funds don’t look like they will decrease appreciably in the foreseeable future.

Which Americans are withdrawing money the most?

Breaking down the demographics, older savers are less likely to withdraw money from their retirement fund than younger savers. 54% of millennial savers say they’ve taken an early withdrawal from a retirement savings account, compared with 50% of Gen Xers and 43% of baby boomers. This stands to reason considering that many millennials have now entered the stage of life where they are getting mortgages, starting families and taking on bigger financial obligations while also being decades away from the traditional retirement age. Millennials are also more likely to say that raiding your retirement fund is justified under certain circumstances, as seen in the chart below:

Just one of many bad retirement savings habits

Tapping into retirement funds — whether an employer-sponsored 401(k) or a traditional IRA — before the appropriate age almost always comes with a financial penalty in the form of additional taxes and fees. What is more, you’re diminishing the principle that fuels the compound interest you need to meet your retirement savings goals.

Unfortunately the survey reveals early withdrawals are just one of the many bad habits Americans engage in when it comes to retirement savings. This list of less-than-ideal practices includes:

  • 35% of Americans are not currently saving for retirement. Of those who are, 37% started saving at age 30 or above, and 12% started saving when they were older than 40.
  • 60% of Americans do not know exactly how much they have saved for retirement. Just 40% know the exact amount, while 45% have a rough idea and 15% have no clue.
  • Nearly 1 in 5 Americans don’t contribute enough to their employer-sponsored retirement account to get the maximum company match. Maximizing a company match is one of  your best ways to maximize your retirement savings. Among those with an employer-sponsored retirement savings plan, just 17% of respondents contribute 10% or more of their take-home pay. Almost 5% contribute nothing at all, and nearly 6% are unclear about how much they contribute.

  • Approximately 42% of respondents have made the mistake of withdrawing their entire balance from an employer-sponsored retirement plan when changing jobs without rolling it over – and nearly 15% have done so more than once. A little more than 47% of millennials admit to this faux pas.

The most damning finding of all is that 27% of those surveyed have never thought about how much they’ll need in retirement. And while “ignorance is bliss” may hold true when it comes to some things in life, this expression should not apply to your retirement plans.

Methodology

MagnifyMoney by LendingTree commissioned Qualtrics to conduct an online survey of 1,029 Americans, with the sample base proportioned to represent the general population. The survey was fielded June 24-27, 2019.

Generations are defined as:

  • Millennials are ages 22-37
  • Generation Xers are ages 38-53
  • Baby boomers are ages 54-72

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